We are living in a day that has redefined marriage. The average marriage in America is often a place of conflict, miscommunication, disunity, and disloyalty. With the afore mentioned problems, it is no wonder that we now find ourselves with close to 6 out of every 10 marriages ending in divorce.
As a Bible believing church, we believe that because of the Lord Jesus Christ, there can be a better way in our marriages. The proper foundation must be laid in order for marriages to work and that foundation is none other than Jesus Christ and the principles of the Word of God. The Bible tells us in Psalm 127:1 that “Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it.” Building a strong, Christ-centered and biblically-based marriage does not happen by accident. If careful attention is made to the details of God’s Word and how to have a successful marriage, then the result will be two people who are more in love later than when they first started.
The pastors of Gospel Baptist Church avail themselves to help marriages work. Our main goal is to get people off of the world’s philosophy which has destroyed many homes and get them to see that there is hope in God’s Word. With this as our main objective, we will accomplish it by emphasizing the following three commitments:
- A commitment to a lasting marriage
- A commitment to a Christ-honoring & Holy Spirit-directed marriage
- A commitment to the proper biblical order of marriage
In short, these commitments will draw out what is really necessary. A commitment to the time of a marriage (i.e. the permanence of it) is an absolute in a day when everyone looks for the back door to get out. If this commitment is not there, no lasting change can take place.
Secondly, a commitment to the type of marriage (i.e. Christ-honoring and Holy Spirit directed) is important because each spouse must first and foremost be the type of person God wants them to be if their marriage is to be all that God intends it to be. In our counseling, we will help people discover areas and needs that are not being met; we will help people see problems, concerns and issues that are not being individually dealt with. If Jesus is not pleased with the way a spouse is living their life (Romans 12:1-2) and that spouse is not walking in the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:16), then the marriage certainly will struggle.
Lastly, there must be a commitment to the task assigned each spouse within the context of marriage. It does not fit our culture to speak of men as the head of the home and the women in submission, but the Bible makes it very clear. The help provided through the counseling will direct husbands to be the loving leaders that God intends them to be and wives to be the supporter of that leadership. A careful observation of Ephesians 5:21-33 and I Peter 3:1-7 would lend understanding to what has been discussed.
If you or someone you know is struggling with this most-important area, call or write the church and set up an appointment with one of the pastors. We will take you step by step through this process and help you discover the fact that marriage is designed by God to be a wonderful, joyful gift from God.